Last night’s Anxious Attachment meetup was a truly enriching experience. Thank you to everyone who attended and shared their thoughts, questions, and vulnerabilities. I’ve compiled some of the questions we didn’t get to fully explore during the event and provided answers below. These inquiries reflect deep introspection and a willingness to grow, and I hope my responses help you on your journey.
Read MoreHave you ever felt like no matter how hard you try to hold onto a relationship, it just seems to slip further away? Or perhaps you’re caught in cycles of overthinking, constantly worrying whether your partner truly loves you or will leave? This deep sense of unease often stems from anxious attachment—a pattern where we cling to others, seeking validation, love, and reassurance to feel safe.
Read MoreIf you’ve ever felt the deep ache of anxious attachment, you’re familiar with the intense fear of abandonment, the overthinking, and the constant self-doubt that colors your relationships. You may feel that no matter how hard you try, you always seem to sabotage connections, only to blame yourself afterward. But what if I told you that this painful cycle isn’t a reflection of your worth, but instead a symptom of a deeper mechanism at play—what we call the Ego Protection Cycle?
Read MoreFalling in love only to realize months or even years later that the person you thought you were in love with isn’t who they seemed to be is more common than we might think. This experience, often described as being “blinded by love,” is frequently a sign of a deeper, more complicated issue: a trauma bond.
Read MoreIn today’s world of dating and relationships, there’s a lot of emphasis placed on "chasing" and "pursuing." The idea that one person should be the hunter and the other the prize creates a dynamic rooted in ego, attachment, and societal conditioning. It’s no wonder that this approach often leads to dissatisfaction, frustration, and relationships that feel hollow.
Read MorePeople-pleasing can feel like a noble trait—putting others first, being agreeable, and avoiding conflict. Yet, deep down, it’s exhausting. It often leaves you feeling unheard, unseen, and unfulfilled. If you’ve been in a cycle of making sure everyone else is happy, but still find yourself dissatisfied, it’s time to ask a powerful question: Am I living for others, or am I living for myself?
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